Anonymous asked: Hello! I am interested in your elements quiz if you have the time. Here are my results: 1.d 2.c 3.a 4.a 5.a 6.b 7.c 8.d 9.c 10.c,d,h 11.a,f 12.t 13.f 14.t 15.t 16.t 17.t 18.t 19.f 20.f 21.f quiz 2: 4,8,9,10,12,13,15,16,17,18,20
Hey Anon, I hope you can recognize that this is your ask since there’s not much to identify you. You got the result of AIR OF FIRE: I Meant What I Said and I Said What I Meant! on the Personal Element Quiz. (Hey, that’s my result too!) Click on the link to read your profile for Air of Fire. Thanks for playing.
Anonymous asked: Could you please tell me the result I've got on the test? Here are my answers: (Quiz 1) 1b, 2d, 3c, 4b, 5c, 6b, 7b, 8d, 9a; 10: b,c,e,g,h ; 11: b,c,d,e,f,g,h ; 12T, 13T, 14T, 15T, 16F, 17T, 18F, 19F, 20F, 21F. (Quiz 2) 4, 6, 13, 14, 17, 18, 19, 20. Thank you in advance!
Well, Anon, I hope you can recognize yourself here, because when anons are sending a list of answers to me without any identifying markers, it can get a little confusing!
Anonymous asked: (I'm the one who asked the "when did you realize..." question) Ah, okay. I was a pretty late bloomer myself and for a brief time, wondered if I was asexual. The attraction to dudes did kick in VERY suddenly when I was 13 or 14, so I was just curious at what point one would reach to realize one's own asexuality.
I think it varies a whole lot, to be honest; supposedly the mean age for the first sexual attraction is age TEN, as per a study, but there are some people who don’t feel it until their mid teens or later and they’re not asexual. And then I know a few people who didn’t feel any attraction to anyone until their later adult life because hey, for some people sexual orientation can be fluid. I think that if young people in their teens and below are forming cross-sex crushes and everyone just nods and says “oh, that’s natural,” it should be natural for some non-straight people to show signs of not being straight when they’re very young. And the problem with asexuality is that behavior- and experience-wise, it’s an awful lot like “not yet” rather than “not at all.” We’re basically doing the best we can identifying our orientation while acknowledging that you can’t prove a negative.
hello, internet, this is your reminder that there is a difference between “I am only willing to have sex with people I know well” and “I don’t know if I’ll develop sexual attraction to a person unless I become basically best friends with them first, and there is no guarantee I’ll experience it even then.” the first set of quotation marks describes a common attribute of people who experience sexual attraction. the second set of quotation marks describes demisexuality.
I’m still under the impression that it’s creating a label or an identity mostly for the sake of having one. It’s obviously not my place to berate anyone for identifying as demisexual, but what I don’t get is what claiming the word “demisexual” does that is positive, as opposed to, you know, just holding that people’s sexualities are varied or unique and that obviously people are sexually attracted to others in different ways or conditions.
LGBTQ struggles have largely been reclaiming existing identities that were imposed upon people through oppression. eg. even if you don’t find that “gay” is an identity you want to claim as your own, you’re going to find if you have romantic or sexual relationships with people of the same sex, many people are going to make sure you know you’re “gay”, whether you like it or not. Reclaiming those identities becomes central because they are imposed, and if you can’t stop people from sticking the label on you, you can claim it for yourself. ”Demisexual” seems like drawing a mostly arbitrary line around what is usually considered fairly normal sexual behaviour and claiming it as an identity. What use is it? Why put effort into claiming that identity? Isn’t it part of the point that varied forms of sexuality are valid and that arbitrary divisions imposed upon people for their sexuality are unnecessary and oppressive? So what use is it to create an identity out of whole cloth for yourselves? Not only do most people have no idea what a “demisexual” is, many of them would tell you you don’t need a word for that because your sexuality’s just… accepted, essentially.
It’s like gender identities are some typology a researcher writes down, trying to figure out all the possible human sexualities and find the appropriate word for each. Seems to me like missing the point, a digression
"”Demisexual” seems like drawing a mostly arbitrary line around what is usually considered fairly normal sexual behaviour and claiming it as an identity. What use is it?"
Bzzt. It is not a BEHAVIOR at all and that is what people have been trying to tell you folks. I just don’t know why it keeps coming up—why people keep saying it’s about under what circumstances you’ll “do it” rather than under what circumstances you’ve observed yourself to feel sexual attraction—but if you’re listening, seriously, LISTEN. IT’S NOT BEHAVIOR. IT’S AN ATTRACTION EXPERIENCE.
And what use is it? I guess maybe because all around us it’s normalized to be able to find people hot, sexy, and do-able at a glance. Are they serious when they say “I’d tap that”? Are they serious when they say “OMG HE’S SO HOT LET ME DO HIM NOWWWW”? Most of the time, probably not. They are likely not expressing that they are ready and willing, right then, to go to bed with that person (though sometimes, they are; nothing wrong with that). Fact is, demisexual people are saying that’s a foreign experience that they never have. That they don’t feel sexually attracted to people until or unless they have a relationship of some kind with that person (no, not “unless they’re dating,” no, not “unless they’re in love”; it’s not a contract or necessarily even a known set of conditions).
So the USE OF IT is giving a name to that experience and saying “oh, wow, there are actually people out there who have never been attracted to strangers/weren’t honestly able to say who was hot in school or who was the sexiest movie star/felt very alienated because it seems like everyone relates to this experience and we don’t.” In other words, it’s useful because it lets people know they’re not alone, and if you are either a person who can find strangers sexually attractive OR a person who does not do so but hasn’t ever felt particularly alienated over it, then yeah, I guess you don’t have a use for it. But what’s the USE, I ask, of trying to take it away from people who DO?
[Note: I’m not demisexual, but I also don’t relate at all to random people being hot or sexually attractive, and I can assure you that being left out of that sort of thing during your formative years, when everyone’s treating you like you’re ridiculous and immature because you don’t have a crush on anyone hot, it can be kind of intimidating. It’s frustrating when so many people tell us our labels are about wanting attention and special status conferred by other people when really more than anything we just want to talk to each other.]
letyourdemonsdance asked: If you're not too busy, here are my answers to the personal element quiz. Quiz 1: 1c, 2b, 3c, 4a, 5a, 6b, 7a, 8b, 9c, 10beg, 11cfg, 12T, 13T, 14T, 15F, 16T, 17T, 18F, 19F, 20F, 21F. Quiz 2: 7, 8, 9, 13, 18, 19. Thank you! =)
Oh wow, you got a rare type! Not very common for an Air person to be this grounded.
appointedgenius asked: I wonder if I might trouble you with my answers to your quizzes :3 Quiz 1: 1d, 2d, 3c, 4h, 5a, 6b, 7c, 8c, 9b, 10b, e, h, 11c, e, g, h, 12F, 13T, 14T, 15T, 16T, 17T, 18F, 19F, 20F, 21T. Quiz 2: 1, 2, 4, 9, 10, 12, 14, 15, 17, 18, 20. Thank you very much!
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hey so I made a comic because I honestly can’t be the only person who thinks about this
Me too. (I plan to write a YA book with a main character who is asexual sometime. I sort of wrote an asexual main character in college too.)
The annoying problem I’ve run into writing about people like me is this.
The best are the shirts with sayings:
Try my delicious salt beef
How do I get the chocolate bar one?
My sis used to teach English in Japan and one time a guy came in wearing a shirt that just said “TESTOSTERONE”
She asked him if he knew what it meant and he insisted that he did.
Also happens in manga.