(TW: rape, nonconsent)

greenchestnuts:

socialjusticeally:

List of ways “asexuals” are discriminated against because of their asexuality:

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List of reasons why “asexuals” belong at a pride parade for people who have sex:

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List of reasons why someone would choose asexuality:

  • Being abstinent intentionally for a variety of reasons.
  • Being abstinent unintentionally for a few very specific reasons.
  • Not having sexual organs.
  • Being Nikola Tesla (uncommon).

Pride parades are for people who have sex? I thought they were for sexual minorities. Huh.

Yeah, LOL.  You know, sometimes people who are this ridiculous make me wonder if they’re honestly that ignorant or whether they’re trolls.

Because people who actually know how to make a point don’t say pride parades are “for people who have sex."  Or else there’d be a request to prove that you actually sleep with your gay partner before you’d be allowed to dance on the float in rainbow underwear.

And because people who actually know how to make a point don’t pretend they’re social justice allies while claiming asexuality is something you "choose."  If we say it’s a sexual orientation, isn’t suggesting we "chose” it an awful lot like what the bigots say about gay people?

And because people who actually know how to make a point don’t generally try to claim we’re “not oppressed” (as if our main point in declaring our existence is to assert that we are) … by mocking us over how we don’t get mocked.  You’ve told us we don’t exist, but that we’re hilarious for trying to spread the word that we do.  Does this kind of silencing and enforced shame on people who are trying to be heard sound like anything you’ve heard recently from the mainstream?

And because people who actually know how to make a point don’t put people’s identity in scare quotes.

And because people who actually know how to make a point don’t leave a bunch of empty bullet points that I could easily fill out.

List of ways “asexuals” are discriminated against because of their asexuality:

  •  Taught that sexuality is compulsory, and that anyone who doesn’t want it is “dead, dying, or lying”–currently backed up by the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of psychological disorders, where we’re listed as a disorder (sound like institutional intolerance to you?)
  •  Not given a “box” to check when identifying sexual orientation–literally and metaphorically–thereby reinforcing the message that feeling this way is not okay
  •  Master narrative constantly insists that “everyone wants sex,” and laughs or concern trolls if we say otherwise; therapists, partners, and family will apply near-constant pressure to change you
  •  Targeted for corrective rape because “I can fix you”

List of reasons why asexuals belong at a pride parade for people who have sex:

  •  Visibility
  •  Community
  •  Fellowship
  •  Education

List of reasons why someone would choose asexuality be asexual:

  • Being abstinent intentionally for a variety of reasons.
  • Being abstinent unintentionally for a few very specific reasons.
  • Not having sexual organs.
  • Being Nikola Tesla (uncommon).
  • Because they are

Asexuality isn’t abstinence.  We can be abstinent for a variety of reasons.  We often are.  Some of us are not.  (Does it scramble your brain to think that some asexuals are sexually active, and that it doesn’t invalidate their asexuality any more than a gay man having straight sex turns him straight?) 

For most asexuals abstinence isn’t “unintentional” (and yeah, the veiled suggestion that we call ourselves asexual because we’re trying to save face since we can’t get laid is a totally new and insightful observation). 

The bullshit with “not having sexual organs”–also known as “lol amoeba”–is only the lowest form of ignorance.  Our sexual orientation is asexual.  Not our organs or bodies. 

And maybe Nikola Tesla is less UNCOMMON than you think.  Perhaps if we had a chance to be visible, form community, sow fellowship, and educate more, you wouldn’t find our orientation so baffling that you’d feel compelled to attach empty bullet lists to your supposedly unanswerable questions when you could have filled them yourself through a damn Google search.

That or just not made a post designed to do NOTHING ELSE besides invalidate and erase your fellow human beings.  (Or, what was your reason?  What do you get out of this again?  What urge does this satisfy for you?)

Nasty.

(via greenchestnuts)